Do We Have to Live Apart for 18 Months Before We Can Get Divorced?
One of the biggest myths in New Jersey divorce is that a couple has to live separate and apart for 18 months prior to filing for divorce. Nothing could be further from the truth. A couple can get divorced based on irreconcilable differences if they have had "irreconcilable differences" for at least 6 consecutive months prior to filing the complaint for divorce.
What is a Common Ground Used in the Uncontested Divorce Complaint?
The most utilized ground for divorce in New Jersey is irreconcilable differences. Irreconcilable differences essentially means that for at least the last 6 months you and your spouse have had differences, and that in your opinion the differences cannot be reconciled – i.e., you can’t get past these differences, so you want a divorce. The actual language is that there is “no reasonable prospect of reconciliation”. You don’t have to live in separate residences to get a divorce on the grounds of irreconcilable differences. You and your spouse can live together throughout the entire divorce process. Other common, but less used grounds for divorce in New Jersey are: adultery, 18 months separation, extreme mental cruelty, and desertion.
Should I List What My Spouse Did Wrong in the Complaint for Divorce: What’s the Effect?
In an uncontested divorce it makes no sense to list the marital issues and controversies in an uncontested divorce complaint. Your goal in an uncontested divorce is to get the divorce started and finished as quickly and drama-free as possible. By listing all of the marital “dirty laundry” in an uncontested case you may provoke your spouse to contest the case, and file an equally revealing Answer just to save face, and feel like they are defending their name and their honor.